judg·ment
noun
1.
an act or instance of judging.
2.
the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in mattersaffecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment.
3.
the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind: Our judgment as to the cause of his failure must rest on the evidence.
4.
the opinion formed: He regretted his hasty judgment.
One of the harder things to teach your children is not to judge people. It's hard because - well - we do it all the time. It's not hard to do. Look at some one - decide who they - are and what they represent and bang you're done.
In fact we're encouraged to judge people.
Sometimes it can even catch up to you later on.
The beloved was painfully reminded very early on about judgement, when the little fella was in kindergarten and one of the other Mums came in and he exclaimed loudly :
"Look mummy , look at that lady, look she's really really fat ! Mummy look !"
So now we keep our comments to ourselves during The Biggest Loser.
I know its so easy to do, take for example the supermarket car park. As you know from this post it's a tough place. So it's very difficult not to scream out judge, when people are searching for a car park completely oblivious to all the cars behind them that are building up into their own car park.
They stop look and wait. Then repeat that 3 or 4 more times, trying to find the perfect park.
And then when they do find a park, in they slowly go. By now you would have completely worked out who they are and what other ills they have brought to the world during their annoying existence.
How quickly you retreat from your judgement, when they finally get out of your way and two little old ladies exit the car, whose average age resembles an inner suburban postcode.
And what about when you are walking along the footpath, knowing exactly in your mind where you are going and what you are going to do when you get there- when all of a sudden the person in front of you stops right in the middle of a footpath with out checking who is behind or what the impact is.
Snap judgements form instantly in your mind not to mention the annoyance that you now have.
If you want to see how sensitive to judgement we are - try this little experiment. Next time you are walking down the street pick a person coming the other way toward you.
Got em in sight ? Ok - now look at their face and then at another part of them with out any expression on your face.
And now back a their face and hold their gaze.
See how they self consciously check themselves are draw their coat or jacket around their body or check that their hair is fine. It's because they think you are judging them.
So as I try not to yell and keep my patience I also now have to add not judging people as well to the list of this I have to do. After all I can't have the kids screaming at little old ladies in the car park now can I !
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Were encouraged by the media to do. They have entire TV shows around it. Look at the Top Model shows, What not To Wear and don't get me started on Masterchef. How they managed to suck the fun out of preparing meals for people beggars belief.
The tabloids spend all day telling you how guilty people are and how bad they are even before you have time to get to know them over a cup of tea and 2 minutes on Google search. They specialise in ensuring you form judgements in their prepackaged descriptions of events and people.
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The tabloids spend all day telling you how guilty people are and how bad they are even before you have time to get to know them over a cup of tea and 2 minutes on Google search. They specialise in ensuring you form judgements in their prepackaged descriptions of events and people.
Sometimes it can even catch up to you later on.
The beloved was painfully reminded very early on about judgement, when the little fella was in kindergarten and one of the other Mums came in and he exclaimed loudly :
"Look mummy , look at that lady, look she's really really fat ! Mummy look !"
So now we keep our comments to ourselves during The Biggest Loser.
I know its so easy to do, take for example the supermarket car park. As you know from this post it's a tough place. So it's very difficult not to
They stop look and wait. Then repeat that 3 or 4 more times, trying to find the perfect park.
And then when they do find a park, in they slowly go. By now you would have completely worked out who they are and what other ills they have brought to the world during their annoying existence.
How quickly you retreat from your judgement, when they finally get out of your way and two little old ladies exit the car, whose average age resembles an inner suburban postcode.
And what about when you are walking along the footpath, knowing exactly in your mind where you are going and what you are going to do when you get there- when all of a sudden the person in front of you stops right in the middle of a footpath with out checking who is behind or what the impact is.
Snap judgements form instantly in your mind not to mention the annoyance that you now have.
If you want to see how sensitive to judgement we are - try this little experiment. Next time you are walking down the street pick a person coming the other way toward you.
Got em in sight ? Ok - now look at their face and then at another part of them with out any expression on your face.
And now back a their face and hold their gaze.
See how they self consciously check themselves are draw their coat or jacket around their body or check that their hair is fine. It's because they think you are judging them.
So as I try not to yell and keep my patience I also now have to add not judging people as well to the list of this I have to do. After all I can't have the kids screaming at little old ladies in the car park now can I !
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